Self-Care seems to be the “buzz” word of the year and for good reason!
The question is: “Do you notice that you feel resistance when you hear the word self-care when you reflect back to yourself? Do you scoff when someone mentions their self-care routine or suggests you “should” take better care of yourself”?
If the answer is yes, the second question you may ask yourself, is “why am I avoiding taking good care or self-care of myself” Why does self-care make me feel uncomfortable?
For years I used the word self-preservation as the word for self-care, as I thought the word self-care was selfish and indulgent. I had a cousin who needed 10 hours of sleep and I used to think “are you kidding me”? The reality was, she knew what she needed and how to take care of herself. She treated herself the way someone who loves themselves cares for themselves…I had a lot to learn!
What I didn’t realize, my underlying thought was, “I am truly not good or important enough to take care of myself”. It’s painful to think that perhaps just surviving and self-preservation was all that I deserved.
This discovery has led me to better understand my self and my own self-care journey. While it is a long (and ongoing) journey of self-acceptance and self-discovery, which has been challenging at times, it has helped me become who I am today. You are not alone if self-care is a challenge. We all have work to do!
I have learned that those who value their self-care have a deeper respect for themselves and that their choices are not about anyone else. It is not selfish, it is they truly understand the Ripple of Self-Care in that how they show up for themselves, helps them to show up better for everyone that they touch at any moment in time.
When I am resistant to my own self-care I need to ask myself the deep question of why? My lack of self-care can show up in the cookie jar and often is the result of lack of sleep or self-imposed work stress. Yes, even the health and wellness coach has self-care struggles too!
Meeting the resistance you face, head-on, is an act of self-care all in itself.